Turning 25 isn't something that is normally celebrated as a 'big birthday', that's usually saved for 21 or 30.
But to me, 25, being a quarter of a century feels like a new chapter for me. I'm no longer early twenties, officially. By no means do I think I'm getting old, but I have learned a lot more about myself and about life in these last fews years and I feel grounded and content as a result. I wanted to share these as I think they'll resonate with a lot of you, but may also make you think about things in a different way..
1. It's so important to know yourself. I don't mean know everything, but learn what makes you tick, what doesn't, what your morals are, what and who you stand for. It's something that will help you to stay happy each day. If you know that something makes you unhappy then you can minimise this, and if you know what makes you happy you can bring more of that into your life. I personally am in my happy place when I'm just chilling with music and reading a magazine, or chilling in the bath away from my phone- it's something that I know I can do for myself when I need it.
2. When it comes to friendship: quality over quantity everyday. When I was younger, it was always the other way around, the most popular people were the people with a hoard of friends. But honestly, it's not the same as having a few really close friends that you can trust and rely on. Ones that you know will be there when you need them. Not to say that having lot's of friends is a bad thing, but it's definitely not a bad thing to not either.
3. You have to know when you step away from your phone. It's so easy to get caught up in the world of comparison and you have to recognise when that's damaging your positivity. I honestly couldn't grow up in today's smartphone era. As I've gotten older I don't really get 'FOMO' or luckily any kind of bullying, but so many people do. Lock your phone away somewhere if you don't trust yourself, delete social media apps from your phone for a week or just switch it off. Give yourself a digital detox every now and then.
4. I get hangry. Seriously. Not in the trendy kind of way... if i'm short tempered, hand me a snickers.
5. If it makes you happy then buy it. There's so much stigma behind buying luxury items, but it makes me happy. So if I want the bag, I'll buy the bag.
6. Putting the effort into your beauty routine will always be worth it. Each evening my skincare routine has quite a few steps more than just using a face wipe, but I often get compliments on my skin and I am happy to go makeup free more often than not. The extra time spent at night will save you on concealer time in the morning- invest an extra 10 minutes.
7. Comparison is the thief of joy. This one is dangerously true. It's so easy now with Instagram to just scroll through and wish your life was like someone else's, or that you were as skinny as them or had their wardrobe. One thing that helps with this massively is remembering that Instagram is the highlights reel of someones life. They may have just bought your dream car, but you don't know whats going on behind closed doors. Also..... photoshop.. need I say more?
8. Family is important. That doesn't necessarily need to be your blood family, but find your tribe and keep them close.
9. Don't be sucked into trends that don't suit you. Oh dear, I have been sucked into so many trends in the past that really I shouldn't have gone near. Find what clothes work for your style and rework these. Those denim shorts way back when that everyones bum cheeks hung out the bottom....? Don't do it.
10. Say no. I don't mean to anything and everything you don't fancy doing, some things you need to. But if you feel like you're being guilt tripped into doing something and it makes you unhappy, say no. This has been a tough pill for me to swallow- I'm definitely a people pleaser, and still to a certain extent am. But I am much more wary now of saying no to things that I really don't want to do. It's actually pretty liberating.
11. Don't hoard candles and never burn them. I used to always buy pretty candles and not burn them because it's like burning money right? But know what's more liberating than saying no to something you don't want to do? Burning an expensive candle. Light them and enjoy!
12. Don't take things for granted. This is such an obvious thing to say, but I often look back at opportunities Ive had in the past that I didn't take full advantage off or appreciate. I now make a conscious effort to appreciate the situations I find myself in, even if they're not necessarily my ideal one.
13. Patience. This is something I am 'learning' and have definitely not yet mastered. When I want something, I usually want it yesterday. It's a work in progress.
14. Be spontaneous. I was always the girl that wanted to plan everything down to a T, but recent years have taught me how much of a thrill it is to be spontaneous. Just to pack a bag, jump in the car and stay somewhere or buy your dream handbag without the massive build up. Just do it. Feels amazing.
15. Life is short- eat the cake. Honestly, from the age of 20-24 I was incredibly healthy and it would be a special treat to have a piece of cake, and probably the next morning I would wake up feeling so guilty. But this last year has taught me that life is too short for that- it's great to be healthy and generally speaking I am, but I also don't think twice about eating a whole dominos pizza. And I feel so much better.
16. Talk to strangers. Yes... go against everything you've always been taught. So many people go through their day and don't speak to the people around them, but actually some of the most interesting conversations Ive had have been with people I don't know. So next time you're on a plane or out in public and go to scroll through your phone, put it down and talk to the person next to you, you might be surprised what you learn.
17. Don't rush things that aren't meant to happen yet. This one sort of goes hand in hand with my lack of patience. I am always rushing things onto the next stage, and want things to progress really quickly. This last year I've had to learn that what will be will be.
18. But also don't hold back and wait for things to happen. This is a bit of a contradiction to the last one, but I have learned not to sit around and wait for things. You have to go out and get what you want, and keep working until you get it.
19. Home is your haven. It's so true - when you get home from work at the end of the day and close your front door, it's needs to be your happy place. My house is full of candles, flowers, snuggly blankets.. If you still live at home with your parents, then make your bedroom your haven. Somewhere where you can go and just be.
20. The best things in life are free. The second best are very expensive. It's so true though.. spending a Sunday with my best friends (and their dogs) just chilling and chatting is honestly perfect for me, and totally free.
21. Flossing is important. Yes really. I learned this one the hard way. My hygienist said my brushing was great, but when I ended up with fillings in between 3 of my teeth, I realised flossing wasn't actually the nuisance step that I always thought it was. I also use a double strength cavity mouthwash.
22. A cup of tea solves most things. And biscuits of course.
23. If you don't like something about your appearance, don't be embarrassed to change it. I'm currently undergoing Invisalign treatment to straighten my teeth, and I have had them whitened in the past. And i'm definitely not against other treatments that are available to enhance your appearance, even just as innocent as LVL Lashes. It's something that is a little taboo and is seen as vain, but if it makes you feel more confident day to day, it's money well spent in my book.
24. Age is just a number. Weirdly, I'm obsessed with knowing how old people are (strange I know, I talk about this more on my Youtube Favourite Apps video), but actually I have learned that peoples age really doesn't determine a whole lot. It definitely doesn't determine what you should and should not have accomplished.
25. You're definitely allowed to milk your birthday.
These are the 25 Things I Have Learned Before Turning 25. I'd love to hear in the comments what you've learned as you've matured, and if you agree with any of mine ❤
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